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God bless you Margaret. You are one of God's angels.

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Awe. Thank you.

I hesitated to write this article because of all the hospital and euthanasia killings, but I don't want people to think that morphine is bad during dying. It can be the most humane thing one can do... and it is something that must be done very carefully.

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In addition to your advanced education and training, you instinctively knew what to do. Not everyone can do that. You did what we were specifically taught during hospice training! You are so right about morphine. Great, enlightening read! It IS the underlying illness, not the morphine, that "causes" death. As you related, morphine just allows people to relax enough to do the work of dying.

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Thank you so much! It's kind of like math... an odd thought, but a robot could do it by using respiratory rate and pupil size. "The eyes never lie."

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Really good method!

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I’ve thought of writing the same things but the memories overwhelm me. Even now, I can’t finish this paragraph…

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You are SO SWEET! It's okay ~ we are here for you! Thank you for reaching out... and know that we are praying for you.

One day, you will be able to come back and tell your story. And you will keep fighting back, but for now, rest. 🙏 ❤️

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Yes my love

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I have wondered how it would be if I got to be there when my husband passed. When I got there, he was still warm to the touch, skin soft, eyes like he was partly awake. I held his hand until I had to say goodbye and they took him to….😖😔💔

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Awe 🫢 Sweetheart, what a beautiful memory! You will always hold that special place and he will keep you smiling. Think on the good things, that which is beautiful ❤️ And you, too, shall attain that special peace that surpasses all understanding 🙌 because you really believe. All Blessings and thank you so much for sharing.

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Yes my love

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Dr. Arande, that was beautiful. Thank you.

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Many thanks... it was a solemn time, of course. It was also a quick backflip to the regular hospital scene. No time to process, think, or talk about it.

So the best thing that I could do was to pray and keep my own heart true to God.

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Yes my love

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Thank you for the restack. So much appreciated!

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You're welcome always my love God bless you and your family

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Dear Doctor

Thank you for sharing

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I so much appreciate your saying that, thank you. I was thinking that maybe I should write more articles like this.

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Yes my love

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Well that was beautiful. Holding hands, human touch and a drip of morphine. I started this story, took a nap. Restarted and had no idea how I got here….poetic. Gone to no more tears and sent off with a prayer. Lucky man.

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Thanks for link!! 🙏🩷

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Yes my love

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Yes my love

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